- You are the primary educators
of your children. You are the ones who should communicate to them specific
values about sexuality. Tell them what
you believe and what you want for them. It's your right as well as your
responsibility.
- Your children learn about sexuality every day of their lives. They
learn from their friends, TV, movies, music, from you and from society
in general.
- Don't wait for your children to ask questions about sexuality - initiate
conversations. Use everyday occurrences (watching TV, diapering a
baby) to begin conversations about sexuality.
- You can be effective sexuality educators, even though that role may
seem difficult or uncomfortable at first.
- You don't have to be an expert or completely at ease with the topic
of sexuality to do a good job of educating your children.
- Communication with your children about sexuality is both verbal and
nonverbal. Your children are aware of what you do and don't say,
your reactions and your behavior. Try to make sure that your actions
are consistent
with the values you hope to teach your children.
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- Although it's best to start talking to your children about sexuality
when they are very young, it's never too late to start.
- If your children ask questions, don't worry about whether they are
too young to know the answers. Children understand what they are
ready to understand. However, answer at your child's level of understanding
and ask for feedback to determine what he or she has understood.
Remember,
every question is an opportunity to discuss values, information and
feelings.
- Listen attentively to your children. Let them know that you care about
their feelings and respect their ideas - even if you don't agree
with them.
- Use your sense of humor when talking about sexuality. Most conversations
need not be serious. Children often complain that their parents are
too long-winded and too serious.
- Have a variety of books, pamphlets, and other resources available
around the house - some that you can give to your children, some
they can pick up to read, and some you would find helpful in answering
your
own questions.
- It is always good to touch and hug your children to show love, regardless
of how old they are.
- Remember, education about sexuality is a life-long process, not something
that will be accomplished in one conversation.
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